Facetime vs. Facebook…
Those that know me well know that I spend a lot of time on Facebook. I really am trying to step back away from it a bit. I didn’t make the typical list of resolutions this year. I pretty well stopped doing those years ago. None of them ever really panned out like I thought they should and I always felt like I’d failed. But this year, I made a pact with myself that I would spend more actual face time with the people that I love and care about.
I remember as a kid, we were either at another family’s house or having another family over to our house. We’d share meals together and just hang out. I mean, we really talked, laughed and cried together. I was born in 1973, so when I was a kid, we didn’t have internet and cell phones. All we had was a phone with a really long overstretched cord. It was years before we even had “call waiting” and I don’t recall even having “caller id” until I was married and out of my parent’s house.
I grew up in a Christian home. My dad was a worship leader for a good 20 years as I recall. This meant that we went to church several times a week. Sometimes when there was a special speaker or a revival, we’d go every night for an entire week. This meant that a large percentage of the families that we hung around with went to church with us.
I have many fond memories of lunches after church or even dinners after an evening service. Sometimes there wasn’t any real meal planned. We’d just drag out leftovers from the week. Reheat it all and have a buffet! My mom was the queen of leftovers all getting used in our house. We didn’t waste anything. I remember spending time at one family’s house that lived on a few acres. Our parents would sit for hours and play rook and we’d run those woods around their house like wild Indians. I’ll never forget those memories.
Another thing that we did quite often was just drop in on folks. We’d drive to their house and if they were home, we’d stop in to visit. I don’t know about you, but now days that’d stress me out a little. I want to be out of my pajamas and the house in some sort of order before anyone came over.
As a kid, we spent a lot of time outside playing with the neighbor kids. We would run wide open from the time breakfast was over until it was time to come in for dinner. There was hide and seek, kickball, climbing trees and riding bicycles. I had skinned knees and even honeybee stings on my feet from running barefoot through the clover in our yard. Now day’s kids would rather talk to their friends through social media. I know my own kids don’t spend the time with their friends that we did when we were kids.
We actually looked our friends in the face and spent real time with them. I do enjoy Facebook and I think it has its upside. I can keep up with friends and family that live anywhere else in the world. I get to see photos of their kids, their vacations and so much more that I wouldn’t have been able to do 20 years ago. But, I think this ability to see what your friends are up to all the time is has its downside as well. I think we take for granted that we can keep up with them by social media and we never pick up the phone to call them or just drop in to say hello from time to time.
Relationships are so important in life. God meant for us to spend time together. Take care of one another and just share life together. I hope you’ll make an effort to have more facetime with your friends and loved ones. Don’t be surprised if you get a phone call or text from me about getting together to share a meal. I am determined to succeed at this one and only resolution I made for 2016.